Inspirational, mental health, Mom Life, Self-Help

The MOST Important Habit YOU Need To Have As A MOM

As a Mom, there are many balls that we juggle constantly. Kids, spouse, house, pets, work, and the list goes on and on. There are many characteristics, we as parents have, that add to our capability to care for all of these aspects of life. It is not easy by any means. It can be challenging, difficult, and exhausting. You’re taking care of the kids, getting them to school, to the doctor, and to their various activities. You are making dinner, doing laundry, cleaning the house, caring for the family pet, and making time for that special someone. These stresses are compounded if you are a single parent. Out of every habit you have to keep these balls in the air, the absolute most important one you can do is to take care of yourself!

Why is Self-Care So Important?

Let me give you a very real life example of what happens when you put off taking care of you

About five weeks ago, I had a cold that was turning into a sinus infection. I get the often enough that I start OTC care immediately to try to stop it in its tracks. I spent the next 5 weeks doing this. My symptoms came and went until finally a few days ago the proverbial poo hit the fan. I woke up absolutely exhausted. I was going to bed at a decent time, Scarlett was sleeping through the night, but I felt horrible. I was having problems with shortness of breath while talking. My equilibrium was out of whack. The second day that I woke up feeling so awful, I knew that I could no longer put off going to the doctor, well urgent care in my case.

I bet, by now, you are asking, Raina, why did you not go to the doctor 3 weeks ago? I’m asking myself that. Here’s why:

  • I’m still in my 90 day probationary period at my job and cannot miss work.
  • As soon as I get home, I try to spend as much time as possible with my family.
  • I put their needs before my own. It is what I do as a partner, wife, and mother
  • From past experience, I usually can get it to go away with OTC products.
  • I try to cook and prepare dinner on the weekends, spending at least the majority of one day meal prepping for the week. The other day I spend as much time with my family as possible. I do not stop moving at work or at home.

Separately, these would be normal day-to-day life. Combined they are a recipe for self-care negligence. If you are not in fighting condition, so to speak, then how can you take care of your family.

Self-Care 101: It’s Pretty Simple

Self-Care does not have to be a big to do. It can be as simple as going to the doctor without delay, taking a five-minute break to meditate, or a hot bath. Something that takes a few minutes to focus on yourself qualifies. As a parent, you have to make sure that you are healthy in order to take care of your littles. If Mom is sick, the world is ending! Okay, not really but it may seem that way.

Here are twenty ideas for Self-Care:

  • Take a walk
  • Take a hot bath/shower
  • Meditate for 5 minutes
  • Do yoga for 10 minutes
  • Practice deep breathing for 3 minutes.
  • Have a cup of tea/coffee***
  • Journal for 5 minutes
  • Get a haircut
  • Take a weekend vacation somewhere local alone
  • Dinner or lunch by yourself or with another person
  • Go play on a playground with NO Kids allowed
  • Feeling sick – rest or go to the doctor in a timely manner
  • Mani/Pedi
  • Date night
  • Stay hydrated
  • Love on an animal (either your own or go socialize animals at a local shelter)
  • Take a class
  • Read a book
  • Color
  • Play a game
  • Play music or an instrument
***I took a Mom Poll and this is the most popular way to take a few minutes to relax for some self-care!***

As you can see self care does not have to be an expensive or time consuming thing. Just a few minutes a day to journal or mediatate. Something to help you relax and melt a little of the stress away. Please learn from my mistake and make sure that, while you are juggling all those balls in the air, you make the time to take care of you!

28 thoughts on “The MOST Important Habit YOU Need To Have As A MOM”

  1. Love this! It is SO easy to forget about yourself when you’re trying to just keep the littles alive…but if you’re not taking care of yourself then you’re not taking care of them! Thanks for sharing!

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  2. This is so true. As one of the resolution for this year, I decided to start taking care of myself more. I have been neglecting myself for a long while now, since I had my 1st child 5 years ago… but now, that little cup of tea while journaling feels so good 🙂

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  3. It feels natural to put everyone else before ourselves and it is often done without any internal effort or groans, we just do it. However, you are right, a little self-care goes a long way. I swear, just a long, hot, private shower does wonders for my soul.

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  4. My mom used to tell me, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. This is so true (I hate to admit my mom was right, hahaha). If I don’t take at least 30 minutes a day to just regroup, or enjoy some peace, I feel very overwhelmed and it shows, even though I don’t MEAN to. I either take a bath or sit out on our porch swing and flip through Pinterest.

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  5. This is very true. It is imperative to take time for your self to hit the reset button. I always feel better after I recharge after a tough week. Being a mom is a full time job within itself ,then pile on all the other duties ! We are notsuper woman but every one thinks we are ! Great tips.

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  6. Thanks so much for this reminder. Sometimes I forget and weeks pass before I wonder why I’m starting to feel exhausted. Then I go shopping by myself for the day. Lol and everything is better. Just getting out and doing anything is really helpful to be able to care for everyone else. ❤️

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  7. Oh goodness this is so true! We are worthy of the same time, love and care that we give to those around us. It’s crucial for our well-being. In fact – I find we are less able to be present for others when we aren’t present for ourselves. Because we become sick, drained or burn out. So self care benefits not only ourselves but our loved ones as well!
    Thanks for sharing such an important message! ♡ Hope you have tons of self care goodness to look forward to.

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  8. I am still working on this, but today I made a point to go to a yoga class and felt SO much better. I definitely have more *better ‘me’ to give my family when I take care of myself too!

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  9. I am 8 weeks into life with my second, and it dawned on me that I have totally neglected myself. It’s so easily done when you have a new born. This is is a great post to remind myself to take time out for me.

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